The Lost Essence ....

Pushpa was 11 years old when she woke up one morning and found out that she was going to a wedding that day: hers.

Her parents and relatives had arranged for her to marry her first cousin, an aunt’s son. He was 25.

Throughout the world, marriage is regarded as a moment of celebration and a milestone in an adult’s life. Sadly, the practice of early marriage gives no such cause for celebration.

Poor health, early death and lack of educational opportunities are some of the problems attributed to child marriage. We call children as a future of our nation yet we are responsible for ruining their lives. Child marriage is a gross injustice to children as it proves devastating for them. For instance, a girl who marry young, consequently gives birth young and therefore have an increased risk for complications or even death in child birth.

Though child marriage has been banned long ago it is not stopped and is still prevalent. There’s an instant need for a self introspection call, to stop this evil from spreading. 

I love you till I find someone better!

"Darling, I would be late today,I  have a lot of office work to do please don't

cook for me", said Andrew to his wife whom he married 'happily' years ago...

After 1 hour he was sitting in a pub(his office) with with one hand around a

girls waist(his most frequented client) and in another hand was a glass of

Carlsberg beer(his file).!

Infidelity is one of the greatest threats to a happy

relationship.But why does a partner gets into it? Some get into infidelity because their emotional needs are not met,some get into it just for excitement.They see it as fun. For many men it is a 'collar up

issue' which satisfies their ego.

The most famous case of infidelity is of Tiger Woods who didn't think a

moment before deceiving 15 girls and most important his wife Elin Nordegren.

One of his text message to Devon James, a porn star said"I want you to be my whore".

India too is witnessing numerous cases of infidelity.Though wrapped under

values and culture these options are silently trickling in.We are letting go off are deep

rooted values and aping the western culture.

A 23 year old lad living in Mumbai says that he is very uncomfortable sticking

to a single women.

A middle aged woman in Pune who is enjoying a marital life for the past 20

years finds it very boring to have sex with her husband.She doesn't mind

experimenting with other guys irrespective of her age.

Such stories will continue to exist and such cases will continue to shock us but it is the worst thing that can be done to a relationship.

Be honest and satisfied and don't forget 'what goes around comes around'.

Who says its a male dominated society!

I giggled at the thought of this hilarious term 'groom abduction'. It happens in Bihar where eligible and potential grooms are forced into wedlock.How do we crib about living in a male dominated society I wonder! 1300 cases of groom kidnapping have been registered in Bihar.

Based on this, a film (Antardwand) is being released on August 27. It is about an abducted groom who was forcibly married to someone he didn't intend to. It is surprising that groom abduction is given a green light among upper castes in northern states where potential bridegrooms are targetted by the girl's family to save dowry. 

funny :)

ME

I teach. I like to teach. It gives me immense pleasure to teach children and make difficult things easy for them. I dont teach for money, I teach because I feel I can easily feel a child's pulse which many teachers have forgotten. Today i had a chat with a friend after a long time. When I told him that I want to change the teaching pattern in our schools he simply mocked at me. He easily tantalised me. I did not give up. For me he was like another naive student. 

Ever since I was in 6th, I began to hate studies. Books were a turn off I thought. History period was the one with maximum yawns. Maths was alien. I grew and grew hating it all. This same saga is continuing for almost all students today who dont like history or maths.  But today I teach it. I dont want these children to grow old without enjoying education. I didnt have good teachers who could make books interesting to me but I feel I can do it for them. Education is of no use until it invites you. A book is useless if it is compelled to read. Why have our schools forgotten that? Why is it that we talk about an unending rat race all the time? Why cant I change this pattern? 

It reminds me of 3 idiots. The movie was appreciated by all. But what lesson did we get from it? I said that we must do what interests us. Do these schools follow it? A teacher enters a class, speaks for 30 mins and leaves followed by the next teacher and then the next.... how often does she say that " today we wont open our books" or " today we'll do fun learning" ? The children and to some extent teachers have accepted the fact that learning cant be fun.. its a stressful job.

I hope I can change this existing pattern.  Its a dream to open my own school where children come smiling and leave home smiling. where they are not dependent on any tutions for their projects or homeworks and most of all, where learning is fun..

Why not legalize it...

Ever since the Chinese declared 'to get rich is to be glorious', women without brain power or money have been using the only asset available to them for quick money. Generally their day begins a little later than others. Unlike others they don't have to get up early for work, nor they have to search for customers. For obvious reasons they don't come out in broad daylight. There are no fixed working hours and no off's..Doesnt it seem too easy??
That is what they thought when they were told to enter prostitution.
Moly, a 22 yr old girl can't remember from when she has been in a brothel . When asked, she said "I was brought here by one uncle. He promised me a job. But now I'm a brand prostitute".
Thousands of girls work with Moly who don't want to return to their homes now. They have accepted 'kothas' as their houses..
We all know that prostitution in India isnt legalised. But everybody knows about the famous G.b road in Delhi, Sonagachi in Kolkata and Kamathipura in Mumbai.
We all know that even respectable people of our society visit these brothels after dusk. Then why isnt it legal? Legalisation would help in decreasing rape cases, social acceptance of prostitutes in our society, underage prostitution would be curtailed. 
what do you think?

Shameful killing.

Recently we celebrated our 63rd independence.. we call ourselves Free, Independent people..

Sheer lie.. I agree that we are not ruled by any external power but aren't we governed by our morals?

I'm not saying that it is wrong to follow our morals and ethics, but is it justified to kill someone in the name of morality? We easily call it Honour killing. What is so honourable about it? 

Some weak-minded people of the society choose to be gods and take someone's life to protect their family's name. After committing such cold bloodied acts they end up in jail. Does that bring honour to the family?

Our religion does not honour these killings yet its happening all the time. What was the crime done by  innocent victims? They decided to choose their own partners believing to be a part of a "free nation".

But they were mercilessly slaughtered..

How can such a killing be honoured if it brings shame to the family??

Think... Its now or never ..

It disturbs me to think what could be the reason for a father raping his own daughter. The very child whom he raised all his life. The same hands which once taught a little girl to walk were later used to rape the daughter. How often do we think about WHY it happens in a "Rich cultured country" like India?

I remember reading a news last year which horrified me wherein a father was arrested for raping his 2 daughters on the advice of a 'tantrik' in an attempt to become rich. Shockingly enough is the fact that the mother was also a part of the crime. It urges me to think how can a father satisfy Godess Lakshmi by raping the very own Lakshmi of his own house..For name's sake we live in a country full of traditions. I wish to ask where are the traditions going?

This is Sanchi kathuria, urging every reader of this blog to think about such horrendous cases taking place might be at the next door. It's not only rape and molestation I'm talking about, its about every such case about which we don't talk, pretending to be in 'curtains of decency'..

Let your heart out, share your views, leave comments..

And remember its not just a blog. Its something happening around us all the time or maybe with us..

THINK...